It was amazing to
realise yesterday that we had not been inviting anybody to come and eat with us
since I had to stay in bed on the 21st of August 2008.
Startling to make
this discovery, which there is no doubt has contributed quite a bit to our
feelings of being semi-detached from our friends here.
I'm so glad that
when we spoke about it yesterday, we immediately decided that we needed to make
a change and start to invite people more often.
Shame it happened,
however there is no point in looking back and reproaching ourselves much better
to look forward to doing something to change the situation.
Much better to look
forward to being more proactive about seeing our friends and making sure we
invite them often to eat with us.
Before I had to
stay in bed with the huge pressure sore in August 2008, we were still enjoying
friends regularly coming around for dinner.
When I was in bed
for the first period, which was from August 21, 2008 until the end of October
2009 I was too depressed and couldn't cope with much.
The idea of people
sitting around me in bed eating was one that made me feel ill at ease and
self-conscious so I did not encourage dinner dates with friends.
With hindsight I
realise now that it would have been better for both Richie and me, to have had
more friends coming by, especially during that difficult first year.
Using this
knowledge to make life better for both of us is more effective than endless reproaching;
much better get on with life as it is right now.
