Learning From Hindsight.

Roberto Matta.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Roberto_Matta 

It was amazing to realise yesterday that we had not been inviting anybody to come and eat with us since I had to stay in bed on the 21^st of August 2008.

Startling to make this discovery, which there is no doubt has contributed quite a bit to our feelings of being semi-detached from our friends here.

I'm so glad that when we spoke about it yesterday, we immediately decided that we needed to make a change and start to invite people more often.

Shame it happened, however there is no point in looking back and reproaching ourselves much better to look forward to doing something to change the situation.

Much better to look forward to being more proactive about seeing our friends and making sure we invite them often to eat with us.

Before I had to stay in bed with the huge pressure sore in August 2008, we were still enjoying friends regularly coming around for dinner.

When I was in bed for the first period, which was from August 21, 2008 until the end of October 2009 I was too depressed and couldn't cope with much.

The idea of people sitting around me in bed eating was one that made me feel ill at ease and self-conscious so I did not encourage dinner dates with friends.

With hindsight I realise now that it would have been better for both Richie and me, to have had more friends coming by, especially during that difficult first year.

Using this knowledge to make life better for both of us is more effective than endless reproaching; much better get on with life as it is right now.

Hindsight Is A Great Thing.

Miguel Cubiles.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Miguel_Cubiles

I recently discovered that the passing of time no longer worries me, the days of the week flash by me in bed or wheelchair.

Time passes, the days they go by extremely quick, weeks zoom past, it used to concern me, not now.

Now I that I do not need to do anything but enjoy my life, it may not be as full a life as I once had before MS incapacitated me, but it’s mine.

Somehow having this horrible disease means that life is now more precious to me than ever before.

I spent too much time worrying about what was going to happen next, I can see now that spending so much time worrying about the future was a waste of my time.

Much better to have enjoyed the moments, because they never come back, everyday is  unique, it will never be repeated.

I think it would have been better not to get so caught up in worrying about what was to come, that daily life got forgotten.

Hindsight is a great thing, if I knew then what I know now I would do everything differently, I would have enjoyed every moment I could.

Some good things have come out of this time, such as a determination not to reproach myself and to enjoy the here and now.